Why carry all that extra weight, for something you might never need.
4 wheel drive with standard tires waist of time.
4 wheel drive with snow tires differed game.
Two wheel drive snow tires or chains or socks.
Come on do you really drive need to drive in the snow sand or grass.
I can nod along with some of your points.
But equally someone could think why not have 4wd, they might never need it... but what about if they ever do need it.
I would disagree with '4wd without special tyres is a waste of time' having driven them with standard tyres in snow and on loose ground in both 2wd and 4wd modes (and plenty other 2/4wd switchable vehicles with standard tyres too). One very snowy day I didn't expect to be using my car, then was asked to rescue my niece who was stuck at work (having had a motorcyclist crash into her car on a roundabout), a lot of 2wd cars were lined up all stuck on various hills, without 4wd I expect the Elgrand would have faired worse in the snow than the average car, with 4wd it was great in the snow even with normal tyres and could easily drive past all of them without slipping. Without 4wd my Elgrand struggles to pull my caravan up an incline with a loose gravelly surface (that I have to negotiate every time I take my caravan out)... it would do it but it would be a bit precarious, especially considering the caravan is between narrow gate posts when 2wd vehicles wheels start to slip, with 4wd it doesn't slip at all.
I probably have driven Elgrands with snow tyres fitted in winter conditions... but I've never driven one in bad snow conditions with snow tyres. So you could say that a 2wd one with snow tyres would beat a 4wd with standard tyres in the snow, and you could link to videos comparing 2wd cars to 4wd cars in snow with different tyres... but I'd still think that the Elgrand with standard tyres but 4wd would have better drive traction than a 2wd Elgrand with snow tyres in snow and the ultimate would be 4wd with snow tyres. Not many UK drivers fit snow tyres at the onset of winter, I don't.
I wanted 4wd because I do a bit of caravaning and a bit of boating (thoughts of pulling a caravan up a slight grassy slope on wet grass, pulling a heavy boat out of the water on a steep wet slippery slipway), because work is at the top of a hill, and because it was effectively a no cost option when I bought both of my 4wd E51's from private sellers. I usually leave it(them) in 2wd mode but I'm pleased to have the ability to switch to 4wd for those rare occasions it's useful (and on some occasions 'useful' has been an understatement).
That's coming from me, somebody who had all manner of powerful cars when I was a bit younger but always back wheel drive stuff, never front wheel drive and never 4wd. In a van I only want 4wd to prevent getting stuck, very rare occasions but invaluable on those occasions.